Menanteau Serfontein – 29 December 2020. Updated 20 January 2021.
Question: Do you think it is useful and important for you to fully know and understand:
- who you truly are? If so, why?
- what your vision/desires/purpose in life is and whether you are on the right track?
Before we get into the detail of specific values and principles, there are a few realities that one needs to come to terms with in order to maximise one’s mental health and to live a meaningful and fulfilled life. It is essential to have a healthy and accurate understanding of “who we truly are” (i.e. the “real self”), and what our purpose and destiny is. All of us should come to terms with “who am I”, “where have I come from”, “where am I now” and “where am I going”. It is useful to periodically make an honest assessment of issues such as the following:
- What do I truly believe and what values do I treasure most and live by
- How do I truly see myself
- What are my interests and passions, what do I really like to do, what do I really care about and in what types of activities do I feel most comfortable
- What is most important to me, what drives and motivates me (“what makes me tick”)
- What am I really good at
- What am I not interested in and what do I do not like doing
- What are my strengths and weaknesses
- How can I build on my strengths
- What can I do to improve my areas of weakness
- What is the extent of the health of my body, soul and spirit and are they in balance
- What were the principles, values and habits that I have learnt and adopted when I grew up and during my life to date
- Which of these principles, values and habits have been worthwhile and assisted me to function effectively as a well-adjusted person
- Which of these principles, values and habits have had a negative impact and have been counter-productive
- Which of these counter-productive aspects would I like to change
- How do I see/regard others; is it all about me or do I also take a genuine interest in other people
- How do other people see and regard me
- In addition to my narrow interests and passions, am I also pursuing things of significance that are bigger than myself
- What do I want to be remembered for
- If my life were perfect, what would it look like
This type of assessment will assist you to obtain much greater clarity about who and what you truly are and could serve as a platform to formulate a vision/mission statement for your life going forward. It could also assist in ensuring that you set objectives and embark upon activities that are worthwhile, uplifting and a source of immense satisfaction. There is nothing wrong in pursuing your personal dreams and goals, as long as your whole existence does not revolve only around yourself (self-centredness) and your selfish needs and wants.